I know what it’s like to be left out. You feel like no one wants you. You start to believe that you don’t matter. And any sense of self-love you might have kindled is drowned out by the loneliness. I also know what it’s like to overcome, to find connection, and to discover a place of belonging. In 2018 I published my first book, The Friendship Formula, to help others discover what I wish I would have known growing up.
I’ve felt the pain of being bullied, hurt, and mistreated. As a kid I was tormented by bullies for my weight, my long eyelashes, and my nerdy preferences. These experiences twisted my soul, made me calloused and angry. My coping strategies of comfort food and video games couldn’t keep the pain away, and I soon learned to lash out and bully others as a way to offload my suffering. After a difficult journey of reconciliation and healing, I dedicated my life to becoming a therapist and helping the world become a better place.
I believe that everyone deserves a place to belong. In a world where technology has made communication and travel easier than ever before, no one should feel lonely. And yet, research tells us that loneliness is more prevalent than ever before. No one should have to feel like they don’t matter, like no one cares. All of us have room at the table. All of us can offer a kind word, an invitation, a bid for connection. All of us can be the kind of friend we wish we had.